Today’s guest grew up with our host in small town Kirbyville, Texas. Shared interest in podcasting recently reconnected them. John Largent has worked in healthcare for almost 30 years, a great deal spent focusing on the elderly and aging population. John and his wife of 25 years live in San Antonio, where they are raising their three sons. He’s on the podcasting today sharing how a redirection in life caused him to refocus his talents and experiences to advocate for seniors, as well as the work he’s now doing in that field.
Our nation is currently seeing a “senior tsunami”, or some call it “the gray tidal wave”. That is, about 12,000 people every day turn 65 in the US. Senior care ranges from in-home care to nursing homes and anything in between, including assisted living, independent living and adult daycare. With so many options, it can be overwhelming for families needing to make these important decisions in a short amount of time. John’s desire in beginning Senior Care Family Advisors is to serve seniors and their families in making decisions ahead of time so that they’re not caught in a crisis mode and puts a game plan in place.
John is an awesome example of how God draws us to the things He planted in us long ago. When John was very young, his dad suffered a very debilitating stroke. He grew up with caregivers – physical therapists and nurses – in the home. His experiences growing up would shape his desires down the road as he “couldn’t wait for the good ones to come into our house and help my father and I couldn’t wait for the bad ones just to get the heck out of my house”. Fast forward many years, to 2007. John had a thriving business, staging promotional events and tailgate parties. The company John started from his garage grew to 30 employees and eight 18-wheelers setting up at stadiums across the country. In the world’s eyes, success. With such growth, John felt the need to bring in someone else to help him manage the business. In less than a year, John was taken advantage of and the business he’d poured into was lost. Bitterness set in.
Bitterness has a tendency to spread. He became bitter not just about business but about people and life in general. It kept him from being the father and husband he knew to be. John went away for a weekend, out to a little spot in West Texas. He sat. He meditated. He prayed. He thought about what he was doing with his life. He returned home with a very different attitude. “I’m going to let it go. I’m going to just give it up to God. I’m going to move my life forward. I’m going to be the kind of husband, kind of father, kind of man that I need to be.” He also determined that he wanted to help people the rest of his life. John is combining the desire to help others with his compassion for those who need help, and it’s led him back to healthcare, but in a much different role. Now, John is disrupting the industry locally because he’s working in the best interest of his clients (seniors and their families) rather than the typical model of commission-based referrals. Though going against the industry is a challenge in itself, John is determined to help his clients and do the right thing by them.
John is also producing “Fitness and Faith”, a podcast hosted by Mike Kip of Gridiron Heroes. He credits Kip, who advocates for student athletes with spinal cord injuries, as a big influence in that difficult season for helping reshape his perspective. He’s also developed tenacity, which is beneficial for anyone starting something new. As he says, “If it’s worth doing, it’s worth putting everything you’ve got into it.” As part of his consulting business, John is hosting a new podcast, “Voices for Aging”, which will soon begin taking questions about senior care via an 800 number and answering them on air.
For anyone today who might be wondering what their purpose or calling might be, or doubting the calling they’ve already been given, consider what John says is his motivation:
“We’re put on this world to do something and I would hate to squander whatever gifts I’ve been given from God and do it for personal and selfish gains…If I’m doing the right thing, everything else is going to take care of itself and I don’t worry about it.”
Jake Enriquez: 00:01 Press and Reach episode number 44, John Largent with senior care family advisors.
Jake Enriquez: 00:15 Good morning, afternoon, or evening, whatever this may be to you, I sure hope and pray that you be found well in spirit, my friend. Hey, my name is Jake Enriquez and it is a joy, honor and a privilege to be your host today. So please let me welcome you to press and reach a podcast where we’re simply walking out our faith and encouraging others along the way. Do the same. Welcome back to Presbyterian. My name is Jake [inaudible], your host and I do pray and hope that all is well for you guys.
Jake Enriquez: 00:51 Is today as you start your week and start off in your morning, I don’t know about you, but in Dallas, fort worth, we’re right back into the rain. Uh, and that means you know, gray skies and all that good stuff. But I do know this man, it is a sunshine in my heart, especially today because I’ve got a great friend of mine who has agreed to come on and be a guest on our show here at crescent reach and men. I love him dearly, I thank God for him always and I just want to introduce you to him and he’s a fellow podcaster. I know he’s a man of faith. He truly has a heart for people, man. And he’s been my classmate. We came up in the same small town, but now he pales out of the river banks of San Antonio, Texas. So please welcome my good friend Mr John Large. And how are you doing today, John?
John Largent: 01:39 Jake? I’m doing amazingly well and especially getting to talk to you this morning. It is a, it, it’s truly a blessing and a. before we get started, I just want to say, man, your podcast, press and reach has reached a lot of people. I’ve shared it with a number of people and uh, you are truly doing God’s work and uh, and I bless you for it man. Cause uh, you know, we’ve got a lot of, a lot of strife in the world right now, so it’s good that we can bring people together anyway we can. So I want to thank you for that and it’s a really good to talk to you.
Jake Enriquez: 02:10 Oh, thank you. Sure. Absolutely. We appreciate that man. Um, but definitely, you know, out here we, we try to learn from one another and grow together, you know, that and community is important. So as we get started here today, man, I’m just going to ask you to introduce yourself to the people you know, who you are, where you’re from, you know, family and friends, a
John Largent: 02:29 good thing, if you will. Yeah. A, well, as Jake alluded to, I grew up in the same small town in East Texas as he did and uh, I’ve known him most of my life actually. And uh, uh, you know, it’s funny when you, when you graduate from high school and you go start your own life, you don’t know where pastor going to take you. And, and uh, I happen to, uh, see Jacob on a podcasting, a group on facebook that was a part of. And I
John Largent: 03:00 was like, that is the same Jake Enriquez. And so we reconnected that. But back to my story, but before I get into that more is, uh, you know, I’ve been married for 25 years to the same woman. That’s put up with my nonsense and uh, I’ve got, I’ve got three boys, one’s a junior in college and the other two are freshmen in high school, are twins, have been in the, uh, been in the healthcare industry for my entire career and I took a brief sabbatical where I went a little crazy and did some other stuff, other things, and we can talk about that if you won’t see, but uh, but, uh, and uh, you know, at the same time is his, I’ve had this career in healthcare. I’ve been a podcast or for Gosh, almost 10 years now. And uh, I really find that as a great outlet to talk about ideas and things and always in a positive light because I really think that there a message there, plenty of messages out there with their negativity.
Jake Enriquez: 03:58 So I like to, I like to spread the good news when I can. Yes sir. Absolutely. Absolutely. And as matter of fact, I know that you are heading up a company now called senior care family advisors, right? Yes, sir. Yes sir. John, tell us a little bit about, uh, tell us a little bit about this business and you know, what all it pertains and um, you know, the focus of it, if you will. Yeah. You know, having worked in healthcare for, Gosh, almost 30 years now, if you can believe that I’m. One of the things that I’ve, I’ve realized is in this country, we don’t take a real. We don’t take real good care of our seniors and um, and that’s, that’s a pretty broad brush to paint with. But there are obviously opportunities where we can do better. And as our population gets older, I’m more and more.
John Largent: 04:47 I mean the statistics now are that 12,000 people a day every day are turning 65 in this country. And so there is this a, they call it a, a, a senior care tsunami or you know, the, the gray tidal wave or whatever you want to call it. Because all these baby boomers are turning 65. And there’s so many options out there that, you know, if you look at the spectrum of senior care, it goes from anywhere from a having a caregiver in your home all the way to a nursing home and anything in between, including assisted living, independent living, adult daycare. There are all these options and companies are there, new companies being introduced every day. And it’s really overwhelming. And I’m, most families find themselves in a crisis situation. Mom or dad has gone in the hospital, they’ve fallen or they’ve had a stroke or they’ve had some kind of illness that prevents them from a living independently anymore.
John Largent: 05:43 They, they, they go into a rehab and, and uh, the doctor says, well, they can’t go back home. And so that’s when the crisis mode kicks in and people have to make literally hundreds of decisions in a really short amount of time. What are we gonna do with Mom’s house? Where’s she going to live? Who’s going to pay for all these things come up in a. and those are decisions that some people when they’re younger, take years to me and yeah. And so my company and my role actually is to serve seniors and their families in making these decisions ahead of time so that they’re not caught in a crisis mode and that there’s a game plan going forward. And, uh, I can tell you, you know, in a, in a society we live in now where people don’t live as closely together as they used to.
John Largent: 06:33 I run into clients all the time that are calling me from Ohio and their parents still live in San Antonio and they can’t be here, so they need somebody to do all the heavy lifting for them and help them with their consulting, uh, finding out what’s going to be best for their, for their parents and it, and it’s a consultation, it’s a consultative approach because we don’t, you know, we don’t make decisions for them when we make those decisions together based on the information that we collect. Sure. So, so it’s consulting, uh, so to speak when you’re going in and approaching that because you have, you said 30 years of experience in healthcare, right? Yes sir. So you’ve got a lot of insight ins and outs and know a lot of, uh, you know, your average guy like myself, we probably wouldn’t be privy to and understanding how to move in and out of those things and how to properly care for seniors, you know, so I think about that, but, you know, I think about somewhere along the lines, John and a, it was, it became very important to.
Jake Enriquez: 07:34 You hear, I’m asking you this question this way myself. Um, I love sharing the gospel. I love a leading people to Christ Jesus. I love making that introduction. Why is that so important to me? Well, uh, one time I was downtrodden, depress you name it, busted disgusted until I surrendered my life to Christ. And from that point on, man, I just took off. I mean, it was slowly and then I just became adamant about that, but there was a point that I reached. It said, man, I, um, there’s no turning back. This is something that I really want to go do. What point was that for you in this, in when it came to dealing with seniors? Is there a spot that you said, man, I just really made a decision that said, hey, I’ve got to go do this thing right here. Wow, that’s a, that’s a big question, but I’ll tell you that.
John Largent: 08:18 Um, there’s two things. Um, as you know, uh, when I was very young, my dad had a stroke and it was a very debilitating stroke. And um, so growing up, um, practically since I wasn’t, you know, in grade school we had caregivers in our house. We had physical therapists, we had nurses, we had people and I saw the good ones and I also saw the bad ones and um, I couldn’t wait for the good ones to come into our house and help my father and I couldn’t wait for the bad ones just to get the heck out of my house. And uh, so that was one of the things that really probably planted a seed. Um, but I would say fast forward many years,
John Largent: 08:57 decades go back to 2007. As a matter of fact, I had a thriving business that, um, was, uh, in the, in a completely different space. I was doing a tours with companies across the country. We had, we did promotional events and tailgate parties and all these things. And it was, it was big business. It was a big finance. I started it from my garage. I grew it to 30 employees and we had, we had 8:18 wheelers that like carnivals on wheels that would go to stadiums and events across the country. And, uh, I was starting to feel a little overwhelmed. So I brought somebody in a, uh, a person that had a long history of, uh, what I, what I thought was success in the space and uh, but I didn’t know him. And uh, and anyway, long story short, uh, I was taken advantage of and it was, it’s smile on my own doing.
John Largent: 09:52 But, uh, it, uh, you know, it didn’t involve embezzling of money that, uh, that, uh, really tore me up because, uh, I’d worked really hard and in less than a year, uh, August say, you know, uh, there was a lot of money involved and a lot more than I could imagine. And, uh, and I got real bitter. I got real bitter about life. I got real bitter about a business. I got real bitter about people. And uh, it was just really a horrible, horrible time in my life. And, uh, uh, much like you. Um, I, I was, uh, I was at, you know, I wasn’t fun to be around. I wasn’t a, a, a good father. I wasn’t a good husband. And um, you know, I just, I just went away for a weekend. I’ll tell you, I’ve got a little retreat out in west Texas and I go to a near Fort Davis and I just sit.
John Largent: 10:52 I’m just meditate and pray and think about what I’m doing with my life. And, and uh, I came back from that with a, with a very different attitude. I said, I’m going to let it go. I’m going to just give it up to God. I’m going to move my life forward. I’m going to be the kind of husband, kind of father kind of man that I need to be and, uh, and I want to help people the rest of my life. I want to do something where I’m helping somebody and I don’t think anybody needs children need help. So do our elderly and our seniors that we should, uh, uh, revere. They’ve got so much history, there’s still people living on this planet that were alive when, uh, the Wright brothers flew the first plane. And when you think about what’s happened in that lifetime, it’s, it’s amazing. And so, uh, I just decided that’s my calling and in every day that I wake up in the morning, it is a, a, a, a more excited than I was the day before and so long. But that’s how
Jake Enriquez: 11:54 I came to it. It’s just a plant. A seed was planted early and then I had a really rough situation, really redirected my life and I’m thankful for that button. Oh, I hear you. I hear you, man. That’s awesome. I think about that, man. That’s great. You know, I mean not great that you were taking advantage of. Not Great that you went through that in such a manner, but to get back on your feet, man, and, and really get back to passion and compassion I should say, but you know, you said, I want to go help people. I just want to go a B in their lives. I want to go pour myself out. It really, really given to the people because you felt a calling to do that. So along the way, because you have been in business a previously, you have experienced things, um, when it comes to running any business because whether it’s, I tell people all the time, whether it’s a business, a ministry, whatever it is, you’re going to have challenges.
John Largent: 12:47 So what are some of the unforeseen challenges that you’ve already experienced along the way when it comes to senior care, family advisor? The biggest challenge and the biggest, um, I wouldn’t call it a, I, I hold it as a badge of honor, but I’m disrupting the industry locally because, uh, there’s one way that that’s been done and I’m doing it completely differently. And, uh, and I’m not making a lot a lot of friends because, um, it’s a, it’s a closed off network and so, uh, in a lot of ways I don’t wanna I don’t wanna be too general, but uh, I’m doing things in a different way that absolutely is in the best interest of my client and people I work with and the industry is, it set up the, as you know, with any industry, there’s always shenanigans going on and the model typically set up as a, as a commission based model.
John Largent: 13:41 So other people that do what I’m doing and don’t work for themselves or they’re in essence working for a commission for a, the place where they end up sending their clients. Yeah. I think that there’s a lot of room for corruption there. And if I work directly for my clients than I can take them, I can go anywhere with them and we’re going to do what’s best for them. And that’s, that’s been a challenge because a, people are looking at me, uh, you know, with those kind of John the size, like how are you doing this again? Because that’s not how we’ve seen it done in the past. So that’s been being a disruptor in any industry is always a, a, uh, a challenge and people look at you crazy because you’re, you’re not following the pack. But I, I look at that again as if I’m not following what everybody else is doing and I’m doing something right. Absolutely. That sounds great to me. It’s a lot of fun to it. That’s very much so. So I think about, you know, the podcast is a set up to help people and walking out their faith and you know, you’ve already shared some of those things, you know, when it’s. Because our, our walk of faith is a forever war man. I mean we’re going to hit bumps, bruises were going to go through
Jake Enriquez: 14:52 things, but let’s go back now, John, to the grass roots of it all for you humble beginnings. And I’m talking about where those seeds of compassion really got into you. And you shared with us earlier about, you know, that with your dad and seeing that the caregiving that was taking place. But tell me a little bit about your childhood. You know, cause that’d be though I know about it. I want you to share it with others here. How was it in a small town there job?
John Largent: 15:19 Yeah. You know, it was a, we didn’t know what we didn’t know. You know, we, we grew up in a town where you had to go, uh, you know, 30 miles to go eat somewhere and uh, if you wanted to go to a good movie, he had to drive an hour. And so we were, we were out in the sticks and uh, and you know, one of the things that I think was really interesting looking back at that time, I mean, as far as childhood growing up, man, it was awesome. We, we played in the woods, we built forts, we had fun, we did all the things that, uh, you hear about and you see about, uh, you know, when they, when they talk about bygone eras, we did whatever we wanted to, as long as we got home before the street lights went on at night, you know it.
John Largent: 16:02 And that’s how it was. And, and, uh, and we have groups of friends. We hung out together, we did a lot of fun things together. We played sports together, we worship together. But, um, you know, one of the things that I look back on and growing up as we’ve lived in a very, I don’t know any other way to say we live in a very segregated area. Uh, and that really stuck with me because, um, you know, I had friends that, that, uh, didn’t look like me. Um, and didn’t, uh, uh, we, you know, it, it’s, it’s funny looking back, um, because I would have people over to the house of all races, creeds, colors, and uh, and some of our neighbors would call the house. And I remember my mother saying, you know, are you boys up to anything? It’s like, now we’re just playing basketball or now we’re just throwing a football around in the yard.
John Largent: 16:52 And the neighbor said there was something going on and we’d look out there and it’s like, you know, there’s five black guys, white guys, you know. And it was a man that was just a real wakeup call. And Hour, I am so blessed that my family did not grow up our, did not teach us, uh, or influence how we lived our life because they live their life that way. So that, that’s a big takeaway for me is that in, amongst all that nonsense that took place in that area. And of course I was, you know, one of the most, most notorious, a racially charged events last 50 years to place in our little county. And uh, that was, uh, James Byrd, a dragging case. And uh, and my mother actually taught one of those guys. Oh my goodness. Yeah. And uh, and so, you know, we were surrounded by some evil forces, you know, to, to not, you know, to not succumb to it.
John Largent: 17:49 Now I’m not saying there weren’t some things, not necessarily in that realm, but you know, there were other things that we got into that we probably shouldn’t have. But man, I don’t know that I would’ve traded my youth and growing up anywhere else. It was just a, we had some really interesting characters. We had some good friends that, uh, you know, I don’t know what they’re doing these days, but uh, I mean the, you know, it was just there, just, you know, I, I, uh, there’s a guy that I was good friends with, for example. You good friends with, I believe, I don’t, I don’t know if I should say his name or. No, he’s a, he is a ship captain in Italy. Yeah. Yeah. And, and you know, and got another one that takes pictures for the New York Times magazine. They’re just interesting people that we grew up with and uh, and so, um, I’m really blessed and feel that I had a really a privileged, not privileged and money since we’re just privileged in a, in the freedom and to be kids and make mistakes and figure things out on our own. And uh, and we had good guidance when we needed it. Yes sir. Absolutely. Well, we weren’t on a short leash for by any stretch of the imagination,
Jake Enriquez: 19:02 right? Yeah. That do think about, uh, what you’re talking about is being able to be together and growing up together. And you’re right, man, I’m, I’m glad to, you know, I mean that, that wasn’t a influenced upon us to be that, you know, because everybody comes from something different. But you know, there’s always been, John, I’m going to tell you this man, as you do your business, this scene in the senior care family advisors, I think about compassion. That’s the one thing that stands out to me the most and it’s about, I think about that with you and coming up in a small town, I know that you had to have a, you know, you’ve got it from somewhere, right? Whether it be your parents and your parents and surroundings, maybe great teachers, whatever that might have been. But the scripture says, you know, proverbs 27, two says, let, uh, let another man praise you, not your own mouth.
Jake Enriquez: 19:53 So I take the opportunity today because I’m going to share this story with people real quick about you. Man. You know, I think about what you just said, your house and you always welcomed people there. I remember failing a class that I’ve already shared this with you before, but I’d never failed a class over there. Well, with Ms Times in government and you know, I was, I had to six weeks down, I had, I don’t even remember the gray, but there were 60 something. She said you’re going to need a 90 something. I think it was 92 or 93 and this next six weeks to pass. And I said, man, I’m not dude. I’m not gonna. Make It, you know, it just ain’t gonna happen. You were there. You said, what do you do it, man, you’re smarter this, you could do this. This is not a hard thing to do.
John Largent: 20:37 He says, I want you to. This is John by the way, telling me. He said, man, I want you to come back to my house. We’re gonna. Walk through this thing together and you know, honestly, I didn’t have belief in it for myself at the time because I thought I already failed in any way, but I went over there with you at the house and man, we broke it out and you started walking me through that stuff, man. And uh, sure enough, man that made the grade and more and Mrs. Tynes was looking at me. She said, boy, I don’t know.
Jake Enriquez: 20:37 what got Into you
Jake Enriquez: 21:07 so bad. It’s always been in you that you had a desire to walk, uh, you know, to walk alongside of others and lift them up as you go. And I can see that now, uh, that same thing blossoming in you as you do the senior care’s family advisory and senior care. And I think about that man. What? There’s no better fit. I think about it. So I’m glad you’re over the, uh, you know, the bitterness part. So what is going to work, right?
Jake Enriquez: 21:35 Absolutely. Absolutely. No, I mean that’s a, that’s a, I appreciate you saying that, but you know, I looked at, you know, we were such a tight group of people and uh, you know, I will say with all honesty that uh, I wanted everybody to get what they wanted to laugh and I still do. I still think that, uh, you know, when other pe, because I. Did you talk about where does compassion come from? You know, it is, it’s a combination of, of, of parents of teachers have, you know, one of my, one of my all time favorite people on the planet and I have not spoken to him in probably 15 or 20 years, was the preacher at our church growing up. Jerry, he is down in Galveston or Houston now. He was young when we were there. He’s, you know, none of us are spring chickens now, but it was one of his first churches.
John Largent: 22:31 He was like 33 or 34 and, and uh, so he could relate to 17 and 18 year olds I think pretty well at that time. And I just remember him spending a lot of time with the youth of our church and the one on trips with us and teaching us about humility and being humble. And, uh, you know, we had a, we had a, uh, just a retreat for the, for the kids of what we called Mif, which was a methodist youth. Then of course we all went to each other’s church. So it was, you know, even though we worship different places on Sunday, we were always a, a co mingling and, uh, in, you know, I just remember, um, we had a thing, where were we, we had a session where he talked about how Jesus washed the feet of the downtrodden in and, and the lepers in.
John Largent: 23:25 So he actually, you know, and we were real uncomfortable with it, but Jerry, uh, had a, had a bowl and had a rag and he watched all of our feet and you got a grown man on his knees washing the feet of a bunch of 15, 16, 17 year olds. And you’re like, this man is walking the fake. He is, he is a living by example. And, um, that, that meant a lot to me, um, and I still am, I still remember it. So it’s certainly something in his aide with me for many years. And, uh, I think it’s just a combination. I mean, we, we, you know, I don’t want to jump on a soapbox, but I mean, that’s one thing that I really feel is missing. I feel like my kids have missed out in some ways is, is that interaction with other people’s parents and other people are going and eating it, their house and, you know, we’re also busy and so structured and all that.
John Largent: 24:21 And, you know, it was just, we were just trying to, to make the best of what now you would think about is how we didn’t have much. You know, we made the most of it. We don’t, I don’t, I don’t one day feel like I lived without something, you know. And so, uh, it’s, it’s, it’s really interesting to look back at that time. But man, when I do, I don’t do anything but smile and uh, you know, and we’ve unfortunately we’ve lost some good friends and uh, I think about them too, but, but they were all part of the fabric of growing up in that small town in southeast Texas.
Jake Enriquez: 25:00 Absolutely. Absolutely. I tell you what, John, we’re gonna take a really quick break and then we’re going to be right back.
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Jake Enriquez: 25:49 Welcome back guys. Thanks for coming back we’re hanging out with Mr John largest, a good friend, man. I’m telling you, having a great time and before the break just talking about coming up and some of the things we miss along the way and you know, we’ve grown up now and gone about different paths of life and you know, John’s down in San Antonio. I’m, hey man, I’m in Arlington, Texas, but I still have the same spirit. I got to tell you and still love to be around this guy, but I got to ask you John, because you know, I do know that you’ve been, you’ve had your hand in quite a few different things and by the way, I always loved the podcasting thing, but as you’ve gone along your way, man, I know there’s been a time where a different times we can share our stories of faith where faith has been strengthened. Is there a way that you can share something along the lines with our listeners that maybe they their faith to be increased by today?
John Largent: 26:41 Yeah. As I talked about earlier, when I was kind of bitter and, and not not being the best man I can be, um, I happened to run into a guy named Mike Kip. He’s a, he’s a football coach and he is a co founder of an organization called Gridiron heroes. And a gridiron heroes is a, an organization that takes care of a young athletes that have gotten spinal cord injuries, it on the field mostly in football, but they’re seeing stuff and other sports too. And um, and following his journey, he was the athletic director out at, um, San Marcus Baptist Academy at the time when this happened. And, and I’m going and spending time with him and seeing how compassionate he was towards these kids and these families that had been really just been delta a challenging hand. Um, because a lot of these kids, once they have this injury, they don’t, they don’t walk again and uh, their lives are changed.
John Largent: 27:56 Their families lives are changed. And walking with him and understanding of it, it’s not about me and it’s, it’s all about all about lifting up your what seem to be problems. And just giving them away and, and, and allowing Christ to come into your life and take control of that and being with him and understanding his, his, uh, his desire for helping people and being a coach, that was one of the things that he was in. And he actually, uh, we actually started a podcast together. I actually don’t talk on it, but I, I, uh, I, uh, I produce it is called fitness and faith and it’s, he just talks to people that a walk in that space in the, in the world of athletics and things like that. And that really gave me a different perspective or really re tweaked my own perspective to help get me back on track.
John Largent: 28:53 And uh, and so he’s been a big influence on my life. And then I would say, believe it or not, having my mother moved back in with us, you know, I hadn’t spent time with her and 37 years and for her to come back into our life has been a blessing in. But one of the things that, uh, you know, she, she is a lady of faith as well, and wanted to find a church home when she got into San Antonio and so, or I helped her in that, that process. And then the process, uh, of, of doing that, I found a church home as well. That’s awesome. And you know, it’s the least that I can do is to, to spend Sunday with my, uh, with my mother and uh, and be in the word together. I’m at peace, man. Really hard.
Jake Enriquez: 29:42 It’s hard. It’s hard to explain, but it, I really am at peace with, with all of that. And there is a contentment that comes with it, like how you said that you said it’s hard to explain and uh, that’s the scripture that says ‘ll give you a peace that surpasses all understanding to that so that straight to the Lord give it to you. So no doubt you had a perspective change, you know. And, and I absolutely love it. I’m glad you said that because along the way I believe we all have some type of change of perspective and enlightenment and we’re able to see, uh, things from what we call a spiritual I or spiritual perspective, what your friend was giving you, uh, which definitely showing you how we were created to do this by the way, or to pour ourselves out by Paul said as a drink offering. In other words we’re giving of ourselves as we go forward and man, that there is such a blessing in that as we walk forward, you know.
Jake Enriquez: 30:42 So as you do this thing and you, you go forward, um, I love the mere fact that you already have experience in business and you already have experience. You know, you’ve got quite a bit of experience, but is there something along the way that’s kind of a, I don’t know what it stands office in warns you that warning signs come up even in because we always want to deal with the people, but we also know that sometimes dealing with people we gotta be very careful and cautious in different things. In other words, somebody angling for something else or whatever. So as you go forward, what do you struggle with and just let that all go. Yeah, it’s a great question.
John Largent: 31:21 I heard a quote one time and um, I’ve applied it to my business life because I think it’s important and I’ve applied it it certain times to my personal life, but, but the quote is “givers often have to set limits because takers rarely do”. Okay. And what, uh, you know, what that means is as, as somebody that has a, a giving heart and somebody that, you know, and I’m not putting myself up on a pedestal, I’m just saying that’s, that’s, that’s who I am. That’s my makeup. I can’t be something I’m not, I want to help people. But at the same time I don’t want to be naive about it. There are people that are there sharks in the water there, there are people out there and so it’s okay to say no, it’s okay to look at something. You know, I’m a pretty impulsive person when it comes to. If I see something that I like, I just want to do it. And, uh, uh, you know, you can get paralysis by analysis and uh, and so I have, I have learned in my business career that um, I look at everything and I have a methodical approach now, whereas a, when I was probably in my younger days, it was just like, let’s go chase the money, let’s go do this, let’s
John Largent: 32:40 go. And it really, you know, some of the most unhappy people I know are some of the wealthiest people I know. It’s like, it can’t be all about the money, it can’t be all about the Nice House and the Nice car and you know, those things are, are things of this world, those aren’t things that are gonna. You can’t take it with you, so to speak. And so, you know, my, my motivation man is really, I just want to, I just, like you said, we’re put on this world to do something and I would hate to squander whatever gifts I’ve been given from God, uh, and, and do it for personal and selfish gains. So I’m really trying to temper that with if I’m doing the right thing, everything else is going to take care of itself and I don’t worry about it.
Jake Enriquez: 33:29 Absolutely. Absolutely man. I agree. I couldn’t agree with you more man. So, so, uh, you know, walking along the way, there are different character traits that had been developed in you. What would you say? I can just go with one. What would you say would be maybe the most important one for you along the way? There has been developed in you
John Largent: 33:52 and I think from that perspective, I’m his man. I’d, I’d, I don’t come off this way, but I’m tenacious. I will, I will, I will grab, hold and I’ll hang on if it’s something I believe in, I’m not going to give up. If it gets a little tough or I’m not going to a acquiesce because somebody doesn’t like it. If it’s the right thing and I’m doing it for the right reason, I’m hanging on and I’m going to outlast you. I’m going to outwork you. I’m going to, uh, uh, outplay you. I’m going to out faith you. I’m going to do all those things because you know, if it’s worth doing, it’s worth putting everything you’ve got into it. I guess that’s, that would be the one thing I would. Cause I was pretty timid guy, you know, I was like kind of go with the flow guy and never really, you know, I had a voice but it wasn’t real.
John Largent: 34:44 You know, I go along, get along kind of person for awhile and I’m, I’m not that way anymore, but I’m that I’m also not a jerk about it either, you know, if there’s a better way, um, you know, I will and I want to bring other people along. That’s, you know, that’s one of the things I’m doing with the, with senior care family advisors is I’m actually a teaching other people to do this same model in other parts of the country so that they can do the right thing for their seniors in their market because I can only be in San Antonio. Absolutely. And so I, I just wanna share that with people.
Jake Enriquez: 35:19 That’s awesome man. I greatly appreciate it. We greatly appreciate that because I know what’s going to work. It’s already working brothers, so you know, we like to say that readers are leaders and we know that to be true, but do you in fact have any books that you would like to share with our listeners? Listeners
John Largent: 35:34 today? I’m, I’m in a really interesting place right now. I’m, I’m working on a project right now with, um, with two guys here. They’re doing a podcast. They’re both New York Times best sellers and uh, one’s name is Lorenzo Gomez and the other guy is bill and uh, they’re both geniuses when it comes to a business and growing business and doing it in an ethical way and doing it and understanding when you’re being sold and how you’re being sold. So right now I’m reading to of their books. So Lorenzo Gomez book is called the Cilantro diaries and it’s, it’s about finding a exceptionalism in ordinary places, Eh, you know, and it really is a great read. I’m almost through with it. And the other book is called a micro scripts. And basically what that is, is it’s another business book, but it’s about branding and how you can brand a, your self, your company with unforgettable, uh, uh, taglines and things like that.
John Largent: 36:48 And, and it’s, um, he worked for the original, if, if anybody watched mad men it was on and he worked for that, the guy that that show is based off of. So he’s got tons of experience in the New York Ad Agency and um, and you know, things like, uh, you know, melt in your mouth, not in your hands. So, you know what that is. I said M and m’s and uh, you know, what’s the ultimate driving machine. So they’re creating, creating these unforgettable taglines and, and how you can apply to not only to your business but to your life, you know, finding things that uh, that is basically your one or two sentence mission statement in life. And so, uh, I’m reading both of those right now and they’re, they’re really good reads. Awesome. We’ll have that. Uh, definitely we will put those in the show notes and uh, you know, always ask people for those books.
John Largent: 37:39 So I can go read them. So I developed my whole library of. Yeah, I love both of those. They’re, they’re fantastic. And, and being with the authors has been a, it’s, it’s been like a phd class in business, just sitting lists because they talk to each other. It’s a know they’re talking about business and I’m just the competitive. You’re just soaking it in. Absolutely. Awesome. How can people reach out to you, John? I mean, do you have a facebook page? Website? Instagram. What do you, what do you go with man? Well, I got a face for radio, but if they want to they can, they can, uh, find me. My email is John at senior care s a [inaudible] that’s a senior care say like San Antonio and I do have a face personal facebook page as John Large and, and, and our business pages, uh, is a senior care essay and twitter is senior care essay. So, uh, if you want to reach out, please do. I love talking to people and love, uh, finding out what, uh, you know, ways that I can, can be of assistance.
Jake Enriquez: 38:40 Definitely we put those in there because I do want people to reach out to your man and you know, I’m going to just clarify something. You said something you can only be in San Antonio earlier and I do know that you can only be in San Antonio, but I know that you’re welcome. Questions from maybe Ohio or wherever it might be.
John Largent: 38:58 Yeah, no, you’re absolutely right. I actually do a podcast called voices for aging is about senior care and we actually take questions and, and um, uh, we’re setting up an 800 number so people can leave questions and we can put them on the air. Uh, but I do take questions from all over the world. So you’re right. I can’t be but one place, but my voice and the information in this world we live in, I think this is the greatest time in human history that, uh, we can be anywhere in the world. We want to be with just the voice and a. absolutely. So yes, you’re right. And I would love to field any questions that anybody has. And if I don’t have the answer, I’ll find it for you. Hey Man,
Jake Enriquez: 39:38 I better know that, uh, like you just said, this is one of the greatest times ever to go out there and really stand for a cause. I have a voice in it and make sure that you stand up and go about it wholeheartedly. But I’m going to ask you this as we come to a close man. Somebody out there, I know they have a strong desire in their heart to go do something and maybe they struggle in their own faith. Maybe they struggle with their own desire. Maybe they struggle with, man, I don’t know if I’m supposed to go do this. And they kind of question it. Sometimes doubt we’ll kind of sit in and start to take that dream away, man. So what would you say to encourage people in their faith and to go along with that pursuit, that dream, that desire to go get it done? What would you say to our listeners today?
John Largent: 40:21 Yeah, that’s, that is a great question. You know, in doubt doesn’t just peek around the corner. It’s right in your face. It’s, it’s, it’s poking your chest saying, no, you don’t deserve this. You don’t eat it. I struggle with, I still struggle with that every single day and I’d wake up the, you know, the first thing I do, and this is going to sound crazy at first. First thing I do is I make my bed. I have accomplished something that day. If I can do that, what else am I capable of doing now? That sounds crazy, but that, that is the absolute truth. And I have to tell you, dig down, find out, you know, if it’s, uh, if, if you have stepped away from faith and I will tell you when I did, when I, when I was not doing what I should be doing, everything was harder.
John Largent: 41:05 Everything was harder. And whenever I re readjusted in, in a, you know, whatever your listeners calling is, you have to. Don’t take it on yourself, you know, find a mentor. You know, that’s one thing too, is if you can find somebody that is walked in the shoes that you want to walk in, find them. I have found that people are more the true mentors, people you want in your life to help guide you. They’re gonna, they’re gonna, open their arms and embrace your desires because they want you to be successful to if, if, if it’s for selfish reasons and they don’t want to help you, you don’t want that person as a mentor. I always think about, uh, in, in pop culture, the Indiana Jones thing where he read this thing that was said, we’ve got to step off the cliff and he didn’t want to do it, but it was supposedly the word of God. So he, he just with faith. And guess what, there was a bridge right there to getting where you wanted to go. And I always look at that as a metaphor for life. If you can do that, then you can accomplish anything. So don’t doubt yourself. And if you need somebody to help lift you up, give me a call because I’ll find out all the good in you and I will help you any way I can.
Jake Enriquez: 42:20 I know you will too, brother or brother, we love you. We thank God for you. What you continue to do faithfully as well, man, and I just want to tell listeners, hey mister John Largent, and he’s my brother and my mentor and Advisor. Hey, I always look up to him and I know that he’s always got a good sound solid word for me, so I want it. I want the listeners to do me a little bit of a favor today though. We want to raise the awareness a little bit more when it comes to senior care. So. So what I want you to do, I want you to go back to the website. You can go back to www.pressandreach.com/pr44 for this episode and all of those contact points are on there for John. Man, I want you to flood them with questions if you have questions about it because I, you know, I’m 48, you know my dad still with us. We still have questions. I know there’s plenty of people out there that have questions and maybe you just really don’t know where to go. Ask those questions while I want you to know that my friend John Man, he’s going to really take care of you in like he told you before. If he doesn’t know, he’ll go find out for you or get you to the right place. Okay, so Man hey once. Again, John, thank you so much for coming on and being with us today, brother. We love you and thank God for you brothers.
John Largent: 43:30 Thank you jake, and keep on doing what you’re doing is amazing and you’re touching people in ways you’d have no idea.
Jake Enriquez: 43:37 Thank you
Jake Enriquez: 43:40 once again. It’s been a joy hanging out with you, so please keep pressing and reach and remember that you are not walking out your faith alone, out here for he has promised that he will never leave you nor forsake you. Have a blessed and wonderful day.
Speaker 2: 44:00 Um.
Podcast Voices for Aging
The Cilantro Diaries: Business Lessons From the Most Unlikely Places, by Lorenzo Gomez III