‘“Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock: and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand: and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.”’Matthew 7:24-27
No doubt, being a parent is an absolute blessing. Difficult and challenging at times, sure, but we know that the role of raising children is nothing to be taken for granted. Nothing puts that in perspective like having friends who are empty nesters. In what feels like the blink of an eye, the babies grow up and the noisy house is down to two occupants (Lord willing). So, how do we build a strong foundation that prepares them for going out on their own and not only surviving, but thriving, as adults?
Scripture talks about building foundations and it’s always going to be on the Word of God.As parents, we should be living examples of both trusting in God’s Word and also living it out. If we want our kids to “be doers of the Word and not hearers only”, then we’ve got to first show them what that looks like. Be the example.
We know prayer is a powerful tool for any believer. What if we included our families in that time? What if we prayed together? Praying out loud before meals is a good place to start. But if we’re already in the habit of praying before meals, then maybe it’s time to kick it up a notch with our families and have some intentional prayer time together. Again, we want to set the example for them, preparing them for when they’re on their own.
One on one time with our kids may not be easy to get, but it’s definitely something to strive for (no matter how many kids you have). Intentionally sitting down altogether for a meal is also a good way to get face time with your kids. Going to church with our kids (rather than sending them to church) also gives us a weekly opportunity to participate in and live life together.
Ultimately, kids grow up and make their own choices. As parents, we are to do the very best we can by adhering to God’s Word and setting forth the example. The relationship between our children and the Lord is direct. We have to trust when His Word says ‘Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.’
What basic fundamentals do you implement and building a strong Christian family foundation?
Jake Enriquez: 00:05 Press and Reach episode number 42, building a strong Christian family foundation. A man. Welcome guys. Welcome back to Press and Reach. My name is Jake Enriquez, your host. So good to be back with you again and uh, come and hang out with you. And again, I’m, I’m looking at the, uh, the title of it. It’s building a strong Christian family foundation. Why is it necessary and what are the things that we might go through a in order to accomplish a building, a strong Christian family foundation. There are so many things you know, that, uh, we are to consider there are so many things that we want to consider it. Absolutely we want to make it where those things are, sound and solid are in our families. Therefore we would be able to do well together and grow well together as we continue to, to grow out here in this thing we call life.
Jake Enriquez: 00:56 You know, and as I’m thinking about this morning, you know, the reason why we come with this, um, this title, this episode is well man, there’s so many different reasons really. But in the past few weeks I’ve had, you know, many different conversations with different guys and talking about family, talking about, um, some of the struggles or the challenges and actually some of the different seasons that we may all get into as well. So there’s so many different things that it made me think about, you know, I’m building the strong Christian family foundation, you know, because truth be told, if you really think about it, you know, we don’t have forever. If you’re a parent of a child out here, uh, you’ve got children, you’re a Christian family and it doesn’t, you know, even if you’re not a Christian family, you still, as a parent, we only have our children for so long in the raising process.
Jake Enriquez: 01:55 In other words, the upbringing, we’re bringing them up and I’m trying to teach them these different things. So building a strong Christian family foundation, man, it is a fundamental and a very strong in our lives as we go forward. So, you know, I gotta tell you that the, the one thing that stood out to me the most, and I’m gonna just kind of share this with you, is a good friend of mine, I won’t mention his name, is, I don’t want to call him out by name, but um, you know, he really had me, uh, he had me thinking the other day as he was sharing these things. So he asked for us to pray, you know, together, and as he’s in a new season of his life and that season is the mere fact that, you know, all of the Kiddos have grown up and now they’re going to be leaving.
Jake Enriquez: 02:49 So it leaves him and his wife now as empty nesters. Right? And that’s a tough one, man. You know, because you think about it. Um, how much time is spent raising our kids? And if you think about it, I’m even more. What are the different things that we get to participate in with raising up our own kiddos? You know, what a blessing it is, by the way. It’s an opportunity no doubt that we all get to have as parents. And everybody doesn’t get to have that, you know, I think about that as well. But, uh, I don’t take it for granted. It is a blessing. We do get to participate in these things, but there’s so much that we get to think about. So in my buddy’s case, you know, I think about how now he’s going to go from raising his kiddos to just him and his wife.
Jake Enriquez: 03:40 And that’s not a bad thing. I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, but what I am saying is that it’s a change in dealing with that change can sometimes be difficult because the season as it changes, you know, we get to change with the season, we got to roll with what’s coming our way. And sometimes that’s difficult to do. So we think about those issues that could come into play, which are, uh, I think about loneliness or depression that might come about, you know, man being without our little ones. I mean, they might not be so little anymore, but still, you know, there’s something so awesome about having them around and having them to. So our lives into in and being a part of their young life and wanting to see them grow up and go get after it and do good at the same time.
Jake Enriquez: 04:30 Sometimes we don’t want them to leave like that. You know? So thinking about that today, that’s one of the things that I think about, but I’m not just that, you know, also we go through changes as parents, you know, we want, we want to do our very best to really raise a strong Christian family, you know, and, and we want to do our very best to do so. But sometimes our own kiddos might not want that. Maybe you’re in one of those predicaments, praise God. Maybe you’re one of those predicaments. Maybe you’re in one of those instances where you know, your child just may not want to receive for you, receive from you right now in what to go do and how to go do it. You know? I mean, I know as a kid, oh, coming up, I was one surely didn’t want to receive as so well, even though, you know, my parents were blessing me and I didn’t really know.
Jake Enriquez: 05:23 It was such a blessing really to be honest, but at the time, but, you know, as we all grow and go together, you know, I just want us to think about, uh, you know, building that strong Christian family foundation, there are so many different things that we go through. Maybe their challenges, difficulties, struggles, but we can’t leave this out. There are also some blessings, you know, there’s so many blessings, uh, behind really trusting God with our family, what we’re to do with our family and how we’re to raise our family. All of those things, man. And trusting God was surely, surely blessed. But I’ll tell you what, you know, uh, I think about an example today and I was kinda crazy and everything, but you know, me and my wife, we like to watch this. Um, this one show called blue bloods. I don’t know if you guys are familiar with that, but I love watching blue bloods.
Jake Enriquez: 06:15 Here’s the thing, I look at this family, you know, they’re a Catholic family, they sit down at the table and uh, they break bread together. I always look at the police commissioner. He has a, he always has a strong relationship with whatever priests there is in the community, you know, they, you know, they bond and they have a great relationship. But I think about his strong, you know, they have an emphasis on being a strong Christian family and that foundation is important because one of the things that they always say family comes first for them guys. And it is, and it matters so much, you know, but I’m not gonna paint it around a blue bloods and everything. I just take them as an example. I love them guys. I love watching that show, you know, and it’s one of my favorite ones. But anyhow, I think about, uh, how they sit down at the table together.
Jake Enriquez: 07:05 It’s one of the things that they do, but, and they sit and they pray together. So here’s some of the things though that I’m thinking about today. So when we think about a building, a strong Christian family foundation. Okay, I asked you these questions because everyone’s different. Just like I mentioned, the blue blood family, you know them guys, they’re different, everyone’s different. Everybody has their own way of doing it. And of course reverence for God is key and basic fundamental of it all. But I think about this though, man, what are some of the things that really, really, as, as Christians, we would want to apply to build a strong Christian family foundation. And uh, I tell you what we’re going to do. I’ll take a quick break on it and we’d come up and we’ll ask a few of those questions or we’ll go over a few of those things that I think are key and basic fundamentals to it all.
Jake Enriquez: 08:05 Okay? So as we go through it, I’ll go ahead and walk us through it now. Is that a number one? When I think about a foundation, you know, the scripture talks about building foundations and it’s always going to be on the word of God. Okay? So building a strong Christian family foundation always comes back to the word of God and how do we build on the word, you know, how do we build off the word I should say, and continue to live our lives off the word and the word as challenges come up, his challenges, a rise, a rise. You know, we have to be the example as parents, if you want to build a strong Christian family foundation, if you really want to build a strong foundation that you have to be about that business in other, you’ve gotta be the example when tough times come, alright, and the only thing that you can, the only way you can be you and I can be an example of a, of what we’re talking about, is to trust God’s word and live out God’s word as we go forward.
Jake Enriquez: 09:13 You know, our Kiddo is, by the way, you know, there’s a, there’s a saying that all of them I know, and I tell them, it’s not what you say is what you do in the scripture that I really based that off of is simply, it says, be not mere hearers of the word, but doers of the word. Right? And that’s in the book of James, you know, we’re talking about being a doer of the word and she would go forward in the word trusting God’s word. So that was just, that’s just one thing that I think about. So if the word is, uh, the basic foundation in the fundamentals behind it all, and how do I, and how do we help our families a really, really obtain more of God’s word? Well, so many different ways. So do you pray together? Was one of the questions I asked, do we pray together and how many, how often do we pray together?
Jake Enriquez: 10:10 You know, uh, I’ll tell you right now, I’d love to be prayerful and more prayerful with intent as a family than we are right now. Um, I, you know, I’m thinking about I need to kick my own prayer life up with our family as we move forward. You know, oftentimes we think just praying and breaking bread together and, you know, that’s prayer, but, you know, as we go forward, we pray together even more. So, prayer is often a one of the basic fundamentals that we think about, but not only that, I’m spending time together. Okay. So if we spend time together, you know, uh, we’re sowing seed in time and time spent is everything. If you really think about it, Christ love to spend time with people and our families are no different, you know, it must be tough, you know, to see, you know, a mom and dad spend time with so many other people other than their own kids.
Jake Enriquez: 11:10 So I really, really want to spend more time with my kiddos a than anybody else. You know, I’ve got seven of them, but they’re not all at home. But here’s the thing, I love spending time with them, especially when I do have the chance to get one on one time with each and every one of them. I think that’s a blast. You know, the thing about it is everybody’s different. All your kiddos. I mean, I don’t know how many you have, maybe only have one great, but guess what, that one child is different than you, right? So one on one time is spent and we can see the differences in each and every one of us, but what a blessing it is. So not only just a breaking out the word and praying, but spending time together, spending time together. And that’s what I like to think about when we think about building strong Christian family foundation.
Jake Enriquez: 12:01 You know, the scripture also always gives a, gives parables, right? And One of the parables in the book of Mark is what Christ was talking about, building the foundation. He said, you know, the one who builds his foundation, who hears the things that he says and then builds off of those things, builds his house on rock. You know? So when it does rain does flood those rivers come coming wash, they don’t wash it away. He’s able to stand. That man is considered to be wise. But there is an opposite to that. And that is the opposite, is the one who hears is say ins in the, here’s what he says, but doesn’t build off of that. Instead, he does foolishly that man. Now he builds off sand as his foundation. So when trouble does come, in other words he’s saying is when the river comes in, the waters come, the rain comes, the flood, what may it just washes his house away.
Jake Enriquez: 12:58 That’s why building a strong Christian family foundation is so paramount and imperative for us as believers to walk forward in and strive for that, you know, as we go forward. So we’re just talking about building a strong Christian family foundation today. I do know and understand I do a that everyone is different. So with that being said, let me ask you this question because I think about this as well. What do we do if as parents, our kiddos a, maybe they rebel against God’s word. What if they’re adamant? They’re just so set upon not doing it that way? Well, you have to remember this and not. I love the way a friend of ours once said, God doesn’t have grandkids. So the relationship between our children and God is direct and we have to really remember that because oftentimes we want to get in there and fix it for them.
Jake Enriquez: 14:01 And Man, I tell you what, we do the very best that we can do. We adhere to God’s word. We give them all of those things. We set forth the example. You know what and what they see is what they see and they can take from that. They can grab from that and grow from that. But if you’re a child and my child, if they are or they just want so much of the world, you got to let you kiddos do what they’re going to do. There’s nothing you can do to stop them. We have to trust in the word because the scripture says, you know, you raise up a child in the way that he should go when he’s older, he will not depart from it. So do we believe that? We honestly believe that. I’m a big believer of that because I know that I left it and came back.
Jake Enriquez: 14:49 So a faithful was my faith or my parents is. They were raising us and believing in what God would do and stand on that word so we remember that, but one thing we don’t do, okay, family, one thing we don’t do is bend, not even for our Kiddos, so my kids know right now, man, listen, I’m not going to stand with you in the world like that, man. I’m not going to be a part of that that you want to participate in and do. No, you’re not going to drag me in there. Listen, I’ve shown you the way I go with you in the way I’ll stand with you in the way the way of God, but what we won’t do is been for our own kids and give in to a worldly way of living. We don’t get out like that. We just don’t get out like that.
Jake Enriquez: 15:36 I’m sorry. We just don’t do it. Okay, so again, we’re not going to be mere hearers of the word. We want to be doers of the word. We’re going to build off the word of God and stay focused on pray and remember, we’re not going to send our kids to church. We’re going to take them to church and we’re going to participate in that together as we walk together. We build together, we stay strong in building a strong Christian family foundation, giving God all the glory and everything that we do. We adhere to it. Okay, so man, praise God. I thank you so much for hanging out just this morning for just this brief message, but here’s the thing I want to ask you because I don’t want you to go just yet. I wanna I wanna know from you. Okay. Here’s the thing. When it comes to fundamentals, basic fundamentals, because we know how important fundamentals truly are, so when it would be, when it comes to basic fundamentals, what basic fundamentals do you implement and build in a strong Christian family foundation?
Jake Enriquez: 16:42 We want to know from you. You could either put in the comments down below, if you’re on youtube, if you’re on facebook, you can go to our facebook page and just comment under this post, but, uh, definitely we want you to go back to the website which is www.andreached.com. And you can go there and the podcast page, which is Preston reached.com forward slash pr 40. That’s where you’ll find this episode. We want to know from you what, what’s fundamental to you, what’s paramount to you, what do you stick to no matter what, because every family is different and you know what we see things differently. And maybe just the way we were raised, we won’t want to say, hey man, no matter what, we always, whatever that might be. So building a strong Christian family foundation, uh, everyone has so many different golden nuggets I say because, and we can all learn from them.
Jake Enriquez: 17:38 So make sure you come visit us at the [inaudible] website. We want to hear from you, what is it that you’re doing or what is it that you have done that to build that strong family and the Christian family foundation. I think about that because, uh, one of my buddies, I’ll just leave you this example and I’ll go, but one of my buddies, you know, he was telling me one time how every week his whole entire family would get together and have dinner in. Man, let me tell you something, I just absolutely admire that. I said, that’s awesome, man. I want to do that. So something so simple, a Christian, something so simple can spark something in somebody else. So that’s the reason why we want to hear from you. What is it that you do? Again, what are those things that you implement for your family and building a strong Christian family foundation. Thank you so much for coming out and hanging out. We love you. We thank God for you. Have a great day.